Today I want to share with you a different kind of article and one which I hope will help you think differently about problems and the outcome you are looking for.

By and large many people unconsciously and automatically think and react in the same way when faced with various problems.

This is all because of the default dysfunctional mode our brains revert back to and are programmed to adopt.

We tend to focus too much on the wrong thing (ie the problems) and to blame others or ourselves endlessly for our failure(s).

In the end no solution is ever found in this way, which in turn makes us feel even worse and more inadequate as a result.

We need to change this. We need to rewire our brains and the software inside it.

Please do this exercise with me. Think of a small problem you would like to solve and put it though the Problem Frame below. 

Problem Frame

What is your problem? _________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

How long have you had it? _________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

Whose fault is it?
__________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________


Who is to blame?

__________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

Why haven’t you solved it yet?
__________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

How do you feel now? What have you achieved?

Probably not much….

Now try this instead. Think of the outcome you want in relation to this problem and put it through the Outcome Frame below in the same way that you did before.

Outcome Frame

What do you want?
__________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

How will you know when you have got it?
__________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

What resources do you already have which can help you achieve this outcome?
__________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

What is something similar, which you did succeed in doing?
__________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

What is the next step?
__________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

How do you feel?

It feels much better, doesn’t it?

And you not only know what outcome you want in the end but THAT VERY first step you need to take to make the change happen.

Although you may not be totally and officially rewired, at least you now have a tool you can use to help you get what you really want.

Make Excellence a Habit.

Fred.

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